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Added on Mon 11th Feb 2019 5:14am   Last edited on Fri 15th Feb 2019 7:23am
#1

Heather Miller

Posts: 34
Location: Illinois
Member since: 4/08/2018

Final Wishes

As the time gets closer, my husband and I have been going over my final wishes so that he has a really good, clear understanding of what I do and do not want at the end. He assures me he will follow my wishes, and I believe that even though it will be incredibly difficult for him, that he will do it. 

I've decided I don't want to be on life support if it's needed. I don't want to be kept alive by artificial means. I don't want my husband's and kids' last memories of me to be hooked up in a hospital bed. I want them to have the best possible last memories of me as they can. 

I am sure you all have thought about your final wishes, too. It's such a hard thing to think about and talk about with our loved ones, but I think it's important so that our loved ones can do what we'd like if we become unable to make our own decisions. 



Added on Fri 15th Feb 2019 7:23am   Last edited on Fri 15th Feb 2019 7:23am
#2

Randall Green

Posts: 8
Location: South Bend, IN
Member since: 14/10/2018

I can imagine that was a tough conversation to have with your spouse.  Good on you for doing it!  Have you thought about creating a legal document such as a living will, advanced medical directive, or do not resuscitate order?  It would make your wishes perfectly clear to your entire family and to the doctors and hospitals that you visit  going forward.  None of them should require a lawyer.  You just fill it out and get it notarized then share it with the nearby hospitals and doctors you visit.